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special times for cat people
when they’re cleaning their feets and spread all their little toes out
when they smelled something weird and make a stinky face
when they walk up to you making little chirpy purrs of inquiry
when they get distracted by a noise mid-lick and a tongue blep occurs
when they see a bird and do that ekekekk thing
when they become possessed by the devil and tear around the house with demonic speed and then pause mid-vicious-attack of a scratching pole to whip their head around and fix you with their all-pupil stare of unhinged terror
Let’s Stop Pretending Christianity is Actually Relevant, Okay?
Let’s Stop Pretending Christianity is Actually Relevant, Okay?
This isn’t what you think it is. It’s worth your time to give it a read.
There were a couple interesting points and I’m sure this is written for other Christians…but a lot of it rubbed me the wrong way. It’s certainly the kind of attitude people SHOULD have, but it still reeks of Jehovah’s Witnesses coming to my door and hoping I’ll at least consider their point-of-view (like they haven’t realized that maybe considering it is why I’m an atheist). All smiley and, “We just want you to live in eternity with us!”
Imagine if people of other faiths did this to you. “I don’t mean to bait and switch you, but we’re an atheist/pagan/Muslim/Jewish organization….”
Christian-privilege is feeling safe doing this, knowing the worst you’ll get is bitch face and maybe snubbed.
Also? Most non-Christians wouldn’t do that, anyway. Because it’s obnoxious and attention-seeking. And the fact is, your beliefs are still the acceptable beliefs in this country. And other Americans know full well what those beliefs entail. Whether we practice it or not, we already KNOW what “Jesus’s love” is supposed to look like. Even those of us who are atheists. Because we grew up SURROUNDED by it, having it shoved down our throats from our first breath.
“Regardless of what you believe, you’re loved and welcome here.” Sorry, I didn’t realize I needed YOUR approval, specifically, to feel welcome here. Go away. Again, imagine ANYONE ELSE doing this to you. Imagine going to Comic Con and some guy in a Batman costume coming up and saying, “Regardless of what your favorite adaptation is, you’re loved and welcome here.” I would smile, nod, secretly think, “You’re a fucking creep, get away from me,” and probably hug my pepper spray a little bit tighter on my way out.
Or maybe I’m weird.
All I want is to go through my day without other people dumping their lifestyle choices on me. From religion to children to my career choice, I get enough of that shit from my family without some stranger doing it, too.
This whole thing is just this dude jacking off to himself for being a better Christian than self-proclaimed “Christians.” Something I stopped doing when I was 13. (That phrase, “Going to church makes you as much a Christian as sitting in a garage makes you a car” was a go-to of mine because I was a pretentious twat.)
Congrats on showing the bare minimum of human decency and not responding with, “Enjoy hell, sweetie 🙂 ” when you find out they have different beliefs. Maybe you’re not a total asshole. That said, plenty of other people are able to be kind to others without the promise of Heaven as a reward, or of Hell as a punishment.
Stop inserting yourself and your beliefs into other peoples’ lives and get over yourself.
As a follow up to the Doubleclick’s powerful “Nothing to Prove”, I wanted to talk a bit about the sign I submitted (1:40).
Firstly, I like both this song and video not because they are “anti-“ or “against” this fake geek girl nonsense, but because the whole song and vibe of the video are more of a Oh, c’mon. Give your head a shake. You’re being so silly. It’s not a push back, or an attack, or a scream so much as it’s a palm to the forehead and raised eyebrow and a “Did that really just come out of your mouth? Really? ‘Fake Geek Girls’? Do you maybe wanna… think about what you just said?”
Secondly, my sign:
“I have to use a gender-neutral pen name to be respected.”
So here’s the story: I’m a science fiction and fantasy author. Most people automatically assume that as a Caucasian female (cis-female, identifying/presenting female, bisexual) writer, that means I write Middle Grade or Young Adult fiction. When they learn that I generally write for the Adult market they assume Romance or Erotica. When I write genre books, then the next assumption is Urban Fantasy, Dystopian, or Magical Fantasy – fairies, princesses, dragons, like that.
When I explain that no, I write Science Fiction mostly, the next reaction is usually “Oh, but that fluff stuff, right, no real science?”
Which… WTF?
What, I can’t science because I’m a girl?
Leaving aside the fact that no, actually, I don’t write a lot of hard science fiction because I find the science-telling often gets in the way of the story-telling. (That’s not to say that what science I do include in my books isn’t rigorously researched. I have a military advisor, a historical architecture advisor, two historians, an ex-military dude, a NASA physicist, a biologist, and a poisons expert in my roster.) But the implication is there:
I’m a girl and therefore I can’t science.
(People often conveniently forget writers like Julie Czerneda, a bonefide biologist, or Erin Bow who worked at CERN.)
The implication of these conversations is that I’m a girl and therefore I have to write books for kids about princesses getting rescued, and unicorns, and fairies with rainbow wings that vomit bubbles. Or ‘trashy’ romance books. (Which… I hate that stereotype. Romance books are never trashy or worthless.)
Now, there are lots of lovely MG, YA, NA, Romance, Erotica, Urban Fantasy, Dystopian, Magical Fantasy writers out there of all genders and sexual inclinations –I’m not harping on those writers. They write what they enjoy, I write what I enjoy, and it’s okay! I prefer to write Social Science Fiction. What I’m harping on is the assumption that I can’t write “real” science fiction because I have ladyparts. (Instead of getting into the false assumption that “Accurate” = “hard” = “good” science fiction writing, I’ll just link you to my article on such.)
And that assumption also ends up playing out in such a way that female science fiction writers just don’t get the respect from the readers that male ones do. I haven’t been neglected by the critical press (thanks PW, Lambda, and CBC!), but it’s incredible to be at a convention and what male shopper’s eyes gloss entirely over my books simply because I, a girl, am sitting behind the table. When I take a break from my merch table and ask a male friend to watch my stuff, my sales inevitably go up.
Shortly after Triptych was published, I got an email inviting “Jim Frey” to do an interview with a media outlet I won’t name. I often get called “Jim” in emails, because it looks a lot like “J.M.” with a quick glance. I replied, saying I would be delighted, and sent along my media-kit PDF, where the interviewer could find a bio, my bibliography and filmography, etc. Including my photo. Generally I find interviewers like to have a foundation of research, so I put that page together to make it easy for them. I signed it “J.M.”
When I arrived at said outlet to do the interview, I was shown in, my hand shaken by the interviewer, and he said: “So, you’re Jim’s assistant then? Is he on his way?”
I stopped, stunned, and said. “Jim? Who’s Jim?” (Having forgotten that I’d been addressed as such in the email)
“Jim Frey?” the interviewer said.
“J.M. Frey,” I corrected. “Jessica Marie. That’s me.”
The interviewer was stunned. “You’re a girl?”
I couldn’t help the scowl. “I’m a woman, and yes. I did send you my media package.”
He made some noises when I assumed meant he couldn’t be bothered to read it. As you can guess, it wasn’t a very good interview. He had no idea what to ask me, and in fact had no clue about my work or my history as an academic. I didn’t enjoy myself, he was clearly unhappy I wasn’t who he thought I was, and I have never actually seen anything come of it.
And would he have asked me to the interview if he had realized I was female? Probably not. As bummed as I am that it was a missed marketing opportunity, I’m more peeved because I realized that this interviewer was glossing over what was probably hundreds of fantastic writers just because they’re female.
Needless to say I mentioned James Tiptree Jr and George Sand as often as I could.
Rewinding a bit:
A few days before I had to turn in my decision on what name was going to be on the cover of Triptych, I was browsing the aisles of a big-chain book store, trying to get a sense of what sorts of ways people were titling themselves. I had done a few things (publications and film credits) as J.M. Frey because I felt “Jessica” was just a little too Sweet Valley High to really fit the brand I was trying to build with my work. But for my debut novel, did I want my full name on the cover?
I eavesdropped on a pair of guys, completely in my target demographic, as they browsed the aisle a few feet away from me. My choice to remain “J.M. Frey” was made when I overheard one of the guys say, “Oh, this looks interesting. Read this back cover. Nice blurb from… oh. It was written by a chick. Never mind.”
My photo is also not on the novel for the same reason.
I have it on my website, because I figure by the time a reader is invested enough to search me on the internet, they won’t care about my gender, just about my writing. But for the people just browsing the book shelves, it matters.
And the thing is?
It shouldn’t. What’s between the covers should matter to a reader, not what’s between my legs.
Can I just…?
This.
This crap right here. The assumptions that women only do things that will appeal to women. The assumptions that boys and men will be uninterested by a product created by a woman.
I’m an artist, and as such, my art is consumed much faster than a writer’s prose. The information is all out there, grasped at a glance, enough to entice a viewer to come in an look at it some more. There will be less of a reaction for my product to be dismissed because the first info gathered is my art, then if they do the research, they can see my name and find out my gender. But female writers are often not even given a chance from the get-go, just because of their name.
Still, if my art’s not the first contact for me, meaning that when people meet me before they see my work, I invariably get these types of questions:
“What kind of artist? Do you draw children’s books?”
“Comics? But for kids, right?”
“Anything my kids might have seen?”
It’s the assumption that as a woman, my art would automatically be geared towards little kids. And when I say that I do animation storyboards and that I’d love to work on things like TMNT or Spider-Man or Young Justice or shows of that type instead of the usual preschool/elementary school fare that is the local animation market, there’s that hint of “but that doesn’t make sense” in some people’s expressions that just make me shake my head.
“Wow, she draws Iron Man pretty cool, for a girl!” — heard when I was drawing my arm off at Free Comic Book Day.
“That Thor is awesome, doesn’t look like it was drawn by a girl, was it?” — heard after I delivered a commission at a convention.
UGH.
My XX should not matter. Neither should other people’s XX or XY. Just the art. Just the writing. Just the product. Judge it on its own merits.
(Also as an aside, I’m almost 40. I’m sick of the “for a girl”. At least say “for a woman”. It’s still offensive, but less so.)
Reblogging for FUCK YES so very, very tired of the perception that _women can’t write science fiction_ or that we’re not interested in it AUGH.
Also for highlighting that I clearly need to find J.M. Frey because anybody who shoutouts to Julie Czerneda has my IMMEDIATE AND UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.
I can attest that this happens. I have had people say TO MY FACE that they don’t read my work as Mira Grant because I’m a girl, and girls don’t understand science OR zombies.
And all you can do is prove them wrong… again, and again, and again.
This is why Joanne Rowling became J.K. And probably why Celia Friedman is C.S. Equality would be a nice thing to have, wouldn’t it?
Pretty sure this is also why Ann Crispin was AC Crispin.
I would venture to guess than Anon, who wrote so many poems without signing them, was often a woman. – Virginia Woolf
I just reblogged something that reminded me this song/video exists, and I still cry like a little baby every time I watch it.
Seriously.
Muslim woman photographed in front of Parliament speaks out, debunks white nationalist theories
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The lies of Trumpworld are coming home to roost, and the walls are starting to close in.
The more new information surfaces, the more inescapable it seems that “associates” of Donald J. Trump, when he was a candidate for president, coordinated with Russian operatives or their cutouts to coordinate the release of information damaging to the Hillary Clinton campaign. That’s not just the Occam’s Razor explanation for the weird web of connections among Trump, his family, and people either connected to or from Russia. It’s the gist of the FBI investigation that has made the 45th president unique in American history; a bizarre combination of Dick Nixon and Alger Hiss.
FBI director James Comey confirmed the investigation in an open congressional hearing this week. He and the director of the NSA went on to confirm, and to reiterate multiple times to resistant Republican members of the House Intelligence Committee, that the purpose of the Russian intervention in our 2016 election was to help Donald Trump; not just for the kicks of posting fake news on Reddit, Facebook and 4Chan.
The FBI is also believed to be investigating at least four men associated with the Trump campaign: longtime Trump whisperer Roger Stone, former Trump campaign manager Paul Manafort (who is now under multiple investigations; including potential money laundering related to shady dealings in both Ukraine and Cyprus), and Trump national security advisers Michael Flynn and Carter Page.
These are either a series of incredible coincidences, or they’re evidence of a fairly large plot by a group of Americans to collude with a hostile foreign power to tip a U.S. election in their favor. It’s a modern-day Watergate break-in layered over with what historian Douglas Brinkley has called the “smell of treason.”
The Post this week had a scoop on the Secret Service requesting an additional $60 million in its next budget: $27 million to protect the president’s wife and son in their three-floor penthouse at Trump Tower in New York, where they live instead of the White House, and $33 million for additional travel costs.
The average family of four in the United States pays about $4,000 a year in federal income taxes. That means the entire tax bill for 15,000 families for the year will go toward these additional protection measures for Trump
Trump advisor Steve Bannon ordered conservative Republicans to vote for Trumpcare and they just laughed at him
Trumpcare went down in flames yesterday, and the flames smelled faintly of burning Trumphair. But the president’s personal humiliation was shared with adviser Steve Bannon, according to reports, whose behavior around conservative Republicans made a joke of Trump’s ultimatum.
Mike Allen quotes him thus:
“Guys, look. This is not a discussion. This is not a debate. You have no choice but to vote for this bill.”
Bannon’s point was: This is the Republican platform. You’re the conservative wing of the Republican Party. But people in the room were put off by the dictatorial mindset.
One of the members replied: “You know, the last time someone ordered me to something, I was 18 years old. And it was my daddy. And I didn’t listen to him, either.”
Bannon’s already plotting his revenge, reports Asawin Suebsaeng.
The general consensus seems to be that the failure to replace Obamacare is unexpectedly bad for both president and GOP: he’s exposed as a crêpe leopard, and them as a bunch of unprincipled bickering morons with nothing to show for 7 years’ empty ranting about Obamacare.
https://boingboing.net/2017/03/25/trump-advisor-steve-bannon-ord.html
President Bannon and the Twittler are so fucking evil and despicable, the goddamn fucking TEA PARTY are the good guys in this one.