Tag: ADHD

bai-xue-lives:

star-anise:

gothiccharmschool:

agingwunderkind:

reverseweeb:

there’s a sleep “disorder” that is literally just “your circadian rhythm is inconvenient for school/work” and people with it have to take meds to make themselves sleepy earlier/later 

otherwise there’s absolutely nothing wrong with their quality/amount of sleep they just don’t have a schedule that works for society

shout out to second shifters – i traded prime time for good sleep

It’s even got disorder in the name: delayed sleep phase disorder. And yes, if you have to have a “normal” schedule, it makes your life hell.

Oh, and it can run in families. Thanks Dad. 🙄

So many disabilities are disabling not because they’re inherently impairing, but because society just doesn’t make room for us

ADHD throws your circadian rhythm off, too. Most people with ADHD have a natural circadian rhythm that makes us tired from, generally, about 4am to noon – myself included. When I’m left to my own devices, those are basically the exact times I will naturally fall asleep and wake up. 

“Why do kids with ADHD have so much trouble in school? Why do adults with ADHD have so much trouble keeping decent 9-5 jobs?” Well, gee, maybe because it’s hard to get any work done when our bodies are literally programmed to be asleep. How well would you perform if you had to wake up at the equivalent of 2am to go to school or work? Not well? Then imagine how it feels for us, every single day of our lives.

There’s a lot about ADHD which I hate and wish would go away, but this part? See above. Our circadian rhythm is only disabling to us because society refuses to make room for us.

hey, i don’t know if this is something you’d know about, but i’m not sure who to ask – the lights in my room are really white and florescent and makes it difficult to focus (they’re loud? but not noisy, just, loud mentally.) do you have any lighting recommendations to manage this problem? or a place to start?

thebibliosphere:

Fluorescent lights are absolute sensory hell for me and they play havoc with my ability to focus and rest cause not only can I hear them (no one else can, but I can. I can also hear the fridge humming to itself from two rooms away so yay auditory hypersensitivity), the light itself is just awful for working in. It’s like an asmr experience for my eyes but with a cheese grater.

In our house we switched over to daylight bulbs. You might not be able to do that if your fixtures are designed for fluorescent

only like our kitchen light is, but the way we get around it is to use lamps instead of the overhead lights, so that the light pools around the room in strategic spots, rather than just blaring down like the baleful eye of Sauron. It’s far more relaxing and restful for my eyes, so I don’t get as visually or mentally exhausted as easily. In my bedroom I have a Philips sun lamp alarm clock which mimics natural light, and can be put on a timer at night to gradually dim down like the sun setting, which can be really good for unwinding and preparing yourself for sleep. (It’s also great at waking me up in the morning. No more blaring alarms for me, just a gradual increase in light that makes my body think the sun is coming out and it’s time to rise and shine.)

So yeah, if you can maybe invest in a couple of cheap lamps (floor or otherwise) that you can dot around the place, and get some daylight led bulbs. I think ours is “soft white” which has a yellow tint to them rather than that retina searing blue-white light which makes you look great in selfies but takes up more mental spoons for those of us with processing issues.

Anyway, I hope some of this was helpful? Light and sensory issues are such an individual thing to try and deal with, but I know exactly what you mean about the
fluorescent lights. It’s a pain in the butt, especially cause other people don’t always get it. Light is light, right? Turns out not so much…

thebibliosphere:

thebibliosphere:

thebibliosphere:

My therapist is making me retake the ADHD test to see where I score now that my brain is firing on all cylinders again, as apparently severe b12 deficiency can mimic ADHD symptoms (it was certainly starting to cause dementia like ones in me, which was terrifying to say the least) and she wants to see where I land. Whether I’ll be more hyper or more inattentive or if I’ll score lower. I’ll let you know how it goes.

*wheeze*

I scored higher. I specifically scored 20+% higher on the hyperactivity spectrum of the scale, giving me a new total of being 98% hyperactive with occasional bouts of inattentiveness. My therapist is just like “oh…oh no…oh dear” I’M YELLING

Me: “So what you’re telling me is, my attention span is even worse, but now I have the mental energy to hyper fixate on them with clarity and actually keep up with all my multiple projects and hopefully finish them, is that what you’re telling me?”

Therapist, making strangulated noises over the phone: “Please don’t. You’re still recovering, please don’t start working on multiple things at once. Pick one project and try to stick with it. What about the…the vampire one?”

Me: “I’m afraid you’ll have to be more specific.”

Therapist: “The gay one.”

Me: “…..I’m afraid you’ll have to be more specific…”

adhd shit from my experience

starlit-lullaby:

my diagnosis is combined-type adhd so this’ll be a mess

(self-dx people can reblog too!)


  • time is a social construct/i have no concept of time (casually forgetting what day/month/year it is)
  • chronic boredom
  • rejection sensitive dysphoria
  • i’m bored but everything is too boring/unappealing
  • “where’s my phone???” i say, holding my phone
  • thinking about one thing and then thinking about something else for literally one (1) second but immediately forgetting about what you were originally thinking about
  • bad yet good memory (i.e: i can remember entire movie scripts from movies i watched years ago but i cant remember what i did yesterday)
  • Leg Bounce™
  • can’t sit or stand still (i.e: i bounce my legs while sitting; i rock side to side while standing)
  • stimming in general
  • i have so much energy!!!!!!! i gotta move and jump around Right Now or else i’ll Die
  • i know i should brush my teeth. all i have to do is pick up my tooth brush, put toothpaste on it, and brush my teeth. so why is my body doing Not That (executive dysfunction)
  • literally everything is distracting (i.e: that clock on the wall at school? distracting. the air conditioning? distracting. someone tapping their pencil on their desk? distracting. cant focus on anything but the distraction.)
  • zoning out CONSTANTLY (can be both on purpose or accidental)
  • i’m reading this book but i’m not processing any of the words on the pages so i have no idea what’s happening and fuck now i gotta reread it from the beginning (having to do this over and over again to actually be able to read something)
  • what was i doing? what was i saying? what did i do yesterday? fuck if i know
  • having no! sense! of! volume control! (i.e: yelling when you think youre whisperingnot being aware of this unless someone mentions it)
  • i’m upset but i forgot why so now i’m just vaguely uncomfortable
  • oops i forgot to eat again
  • what’s an attention span? don’t know her
  • zero impulse control

hazeldomain:

oockitty:

coldalbion:

grace-and-ace:

neddythestylish:

memelordrevan:

rosslynpaladin:

iamthethunder:

s8yrboy:

“If autism isn’t caused by environmental factors and is natural why didn’t we ever see it in the past?”

We did, except it wasn’t called autism it was called “Little Jonathan is a r*tarded halfwit who bangs his head on things and can’t speak so we’re taking him into the middle of the cold dark forest and leaving him there to die.”

Or “little Jonathan doesn’t talk but does a good job herding the sheep, contributes to the community in his own way, and is, all around, a decent guy.” That happened a lot, too, especially before the 19th century.

Or, backing up FURTHER

and lots of people think this very likely,

“Oh little Sionnat has obviously been taken by the fairies and they’ve left us a Changeling Child who knows too much, and asks strange questions, and uses words she shouldn’t know, and watches everything with her big dark eyes, clearly a Fairy Child and not a Human Like Us.”

The Myth of the Changeling child, a human baby apparently replaced at a young age by a toddler who “suddenly” acts “strange and fey” is an almost textbook depiction of autistic children.

To this day, “autism warrior mommies” talk about autism “stealing” their “sweet normal child” and have this idea of “getting their real baby back” which (in the face of modern science)  indicates how the human psyche actually does deal with finding out their kid acts unlike what they expected.

Given this evidence, and how common we now know autism actually is, the Changeling myth is almost definitely the result of people’s confusion at the development of autistic children.

Weirdly enough, that legend is now comforting to me.

I think it’s worth noting that many like me, who are diagnosed with ASD now, would probably have been seen as just a bit odd in centuries past. I’m only a little bit autistic; I can pass for neurotypical for short periods if I work really hard at it. I have a lack of talent in social situations, and I’m prone to sensory overload or you might notice me stimming.

But here’s the thing: life is louder, brighter and more intense and confusing than it has ever been. I live on the edge of London and I rarely go into the centre of town because it’s too overwhelming. If I went back in time and lived on a farm somewhere, would anyone even notice there was anything odd about me? No police sirens, no crowded streets that go on for miles and miles, no flickery electric lights. Working on a farm has a clear routine. I’d be a badass at spinning cloth or churning butter because I find endless repetition soothing rather than boring.

I’m not trying to romanticise the past because I know it was hard, dirty work with a constant risk of premature death. I don’t actually want to be a 16th century farmer! What I’m saying is that disability exists in the context of the environment. Our environment isn’t making people autistic in the sense of some chemical causing brain damage. But we have created a modern environment which is hostile to autistic people in many ways, which effectively makes us more disabled. When you make people more disabled, you start to see more people struggling, failing at school because they’re overwhelmed, freaking out at the sound of electric hand dryers and so on. And suddenly it looks like there’s millions more autistic people than existed before.

“…disability exists in the context of the environment.”

Reblog for disability commentary.

That last paragraph is absolutely important.

“How come nobody ever heard of ‘dyslexia’ until widespread literacy became a thing?”

“…disability exists in the context of the environment.”

intj-confessions:

buttlovinangel:

dathen:

adhd-informative:

faun-songs:

seashells-and-bookshelves:

attack0npotato:

be-gay-everyday:

fucktheevanuris:

ADHD culture is saying “what?” when you heard the question someone asked you but… It didn’t fucking… Register… In the brain? And then you hear the question before they ask again and interrupt them when they’re talking because now you’re An Asshole™ who understands

Someone: Hey what time is it?

Me: What?

Someone: Wha-

Me: It’s 3:20

This is actually a thing, while visual info takes 0.1 seconds to process, auditory infor can take 3 to 4 seconds to process, which is why you ask, and then actually hear the question because your brains only just processed it

My husband has ADHD and does this, and I hate repeating myself constantly. One thing that I feel has saved us from so much stress in our marriage is that I’ve just stopped repeating myself. After a while he caught onto what I was doing and stopped saying “what” over and over when I didn’t respond. Now occasionally he’ll ask me “what?” when I said something because he actually didn’t hear me, and I will happily repeat myself for him, but most of the time I just say silent and let his brain compute what I said. So now our conversations go one of two ways: 

Me: Hey hon, where is the tv remote?
Him: What??
Me: *silence*
Him: I left it on the couch. 

Or 

Me: Hey hon, where is the tv remote? 
Him: What?
Me: *silence*
Him: Ok, I really didn’t hear you that time, what did you say?
Me: *repeats question*

Even if you don’t have ADHD, I mean, auditory delay happens with a lot of people, not just ADHD folk. If you deal with it, try this approach with your friends and loved ones. It has helped us so much. 

I jokingly suggested something similar to my gf called the “3 second rule”. If i don’t respond in 3s, assume I really didn’t hear you. 

Tho Im p good at just masking the processing time with UUhhhhHhHhh

Also pro tip for communicating with ADHD people: say the name of the person you want to talk to before you share your thought and wait for them to acknowledge you. That way if we are distracted or otherwise occupied you know can be sure are listening. We very well may still need to process, but it will greatly cut down on the number of times we genuinely didn’t hear a word you just said.

THAT LAST NOTE

PLEASE

I AM BEGGING

Yo I’m just like an Alexa with legs. Ya gotta say my wake word if you want me to to pay attention.

This goes for autism too. And hell yes for the wake word. You can stand there talking at me for five minutes and I may not hear you if you didn’t get my attention first.

solarpunkarchivist:

solarpunkandtea:

endangered-justice-seeker:

So much respect for Yashar Ali sharing this. This conversation goes well beyond ADHD, but how we talk
about mental health in general. Thank you for bursting open the door for
others to be seen.

This hurt my heart to read. I struggled with ADHD for years with absolutely no idea that was why I found so many “simple” things so hard. It got really awful in college where I would be sobbing because I had an essay due and I just couldn’t make myself do it. I wanted to do it! Why was I such a stupid and lazy person?! I hated doing everything so last minute.

I’m angry at myself for not getting help when I was younger. It really sucks placing so much self-loathing and hate on yourself because neither you nor anyone else considered the possibility that maybe there was something wrong.

I was diagnosed last week. I’m 31. A lot of this thread resonates with me, especially the slipping part. I honestly thought the fact that I could manage some things in the past until I let them slip meant my inability to do them was laziness and not my ADD. The under diagnosis of adults, especially in the UK is a real thing. Up until very recently it was nearly impossible for adults to seek diagnosis and now there are posters up everywhere saying what amounts to gosh, so many undiagnosed adults! A terrible mystery, come in and get checked! Which is a bit infuriating really.

Though actually a lot of ADD people read a shit lot (I’m one of them and so are my other diagnosed friends). Just often not the things they should be reading. Hyperfocus on things that you enjoy is a thing.