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wetwareproblem:

chemipedia:

blizzardofjj:

I don’t use this but might be for someone out there who does, check it out?

The word I get is that it’s old-school insulin so the dose might need fiddling, but otherwise checks out. Have not confirmed personally. CVS is rumored to have the same thing going on, but that is currently unconfirmed.

Snopes has details. In short, this is, as @chemipedia hinted at, human insulin, which requires a lot more peplanning and management. You’ll need to talk to a doctor about using this stuff if at all possible. It’s still good to have the option over going without, though.

If you reblogged the original from me, please reblog this version.

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vampireapologist:

vampireapologist:

Thinkin about how as kids parents told us to clean our rooms without having ever shown us how to themselves, taught us any organizational skills, spatial management, or any other knowledge necessary to know how to efficiently tackle a mess without getting overwhelmed and then got exasperated when we as ten year olds didn’t just……figure it out

This is not a dunk on my parents for the record. I had wonderful parents growing up and still have an amazing mom. I think this is just one of those smaller and common things of parenthood that I think addressing would be monumental in reducing a very common household stressor. If parents led their children in cleanups and helped them reason out plans to manage their time and stuff, especially neurodivergent kids, the entire household would be a lot more calm, streamlined, and overall happy I think!!!

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eeveedream:

averageautistic:

reydhd:

one of the least helpful things ive been told as a neurodivergent person is “don’t half ass things”

if you can quarter ass something, do it! if all you can do is clean a corner of your room, or only read one of the two assigned chapters, or write the heading for your resume, or put all the papers for taxes in a pile, do it! if today isn’t a whole ass day, take pride in the portion of ass that you were capable of

don’t let neurotypicals work ethic define how you did today

honestly this info/post is so so so important.

like i have lived in my new appartment for about half a year now and my autistic ass would never have cleaned it even once if i hadn’t allowed myself to halfass my cleaing.

instead of waiting for a day (that would never come) where i would have the energy and executive function to clean all of it, i took it one bit at the time. one day i might vacuum the kitchen. another day i might dust the livingroom.

you don’t have to do it all at once. it’s ok to just do a little bit.

This is honestly so important

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tip-toeing:

goldhornsandblackwool:

goodmorningvelma:

catifex:

bishounen-curious:

chloroscythe:

bishounen-curious:

chloroscythe:

in my head theres a little mouse wearing a little apron and she makes all my emotions

she needs to read a fuckin recipe this bitch is just making a MESS

shes doing her best… maybe shed do better if you were nicer to her

making serotonin is the cooking equivalent to scrambling an egg and she can’t even do that right smh

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Hi I’m Catifex and I want you to make your mouse’s work easier!

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Reblogging this in the hopes that the image of a sweet little mouse doing her best to make my emotions will help me remember to be kinder to myself.

Definitely reblogging for the much more helpful concept of a helpful mouse doing her best for the sake of people who regularly hate on their brain then wonder why that’s not working so well.

This just shocked me so much I started crying. As soon as you put it like that I realize how often I talk so horribly to myself. I’m sorry mouse lady we can do better.

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caboodlesofnonesense:

thelimeadecat:

geekandmisandry:

d6-da-maniac:

clairethehuntress:

soul-angelos:

wear-it-like-armour-bastard:

testxsterone:

hollowedskin:

raphaelsdumort:

sarsbabe77:

animatedamerican:

inquisitivespirit:

protectnevillelongbottom:

littlepumpkinprincess:

fiercefatfeminist:

fiercefatfeminist:

It is our duty as feminists to protect and respect women in Hijabs

Now. More. Than. Ever.

Question: if I see someone pull off a Hijab, what should I do? I know there are reasons they are worn so I want to if i should stand in between them and who did this, should i protect them from view somehow, or something else? This has been happening a lot so I feel it’s something everyone needs to know.

Good question! I cannot correctly and effectively answer, as I am a white, non-Muslim person; however, I will reblog in case any of my followers can answer. 

I asked my Hijabi friend, so here’s one Hijabi’s answer: 

“my opinion is, definitely try cover them or give them something to cover themselves with. And perhaps shoo off the person, without putting oneself in danger! God forbid, if that happened to me, I would like someone to come and comfort me and give me something to cover my hair with and then help me report it to the cops
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(Followers, if any of you are hijabi and would like to expand on this answer or offer alternatives, please do.)

If u see it happen to 1 of us, pls cover our head + hair with a coat or shawl or any piece of cloth, while hugging us in comfort. Please don’t get hurt by lashing out @ the perpetrators in any way, coz if they dare to do that, they’re probably too far gone in their own hatred to listen to any reason. Much love + Thank You to anyone who supports us.

yes !! everything said here is important af. if you see someone pull off a girl’s hijab immediately cover her hair and provide comfort. don’t talk to the perpetrator but try to get the woman out of there if you can. maybe if you have a scarf on you at the time give it to her so she can wear it until she’s alone and can replace her hijab. please please protect muslim girls because we already had it hard before donald trump became president and now its gonna be worse with people going around thinking their violence and cruelty is justified 

for my other white ppl who might have a hard time, it’s my understanding that a hijab is like a major item of clothing, not an accessory like a hat or a scarf.
so think abt it more like if someone just ripped someone’s shirt or skirt off. u don’t want to be left there exposed or have to walk home without it.

everyone, even outside America needs to protect our Muslim sisters in these times.

as a man, what would be the best thing to do? should i turn my head and avoid looking at their hair? can i still offer a jacket or something similar?

^I’m hoping someone has an answer islamaphpbia is on the rise in my town and I want to be a good male non Muslim ally

For men, yes please, we would prefer it if you avoided looking at our hair, and if we don’t have something to substitute as a hijab at that moment, anything you could lend us, a jacket, etc, would be very appreciated.

Also, since most girls avoid physical contact with men they’re not related to, please do not hug them, but rather shoo the offender away if you can, or at least escort the girl to a safe place. You can still offer words of encouragement and support. Furthermore, understand that the victim may not be very welcoming towards you because she’ll obviously be shaken, and won’t know where you are coming from. If that’s the case, please still give her something to cover herself (hijab is very important, think of it as someone ripping your shirt off) and stand some distance away until you are sure she’s in safe hands.

Thank you so much for your support, we really appreciate it, god bless all of you.

In the horrible climate we’re currently in, please take note of this.

Reblogging this again for the guy-instructions

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As a white girl who supports these women with all my heart, BOOSTING!!!

As a Muslim girl, THIS is making my heart soar

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sload:

HEY THERE, Y’ALL!

As we move into 2019 and presidential hopefuls start their campaigns, remember:

– DO NOT FORM POLITICAL OPINIONS BASED ON INFOGRAPHICS. Read source material. If a journalist is legitimate, they will not pass off their statements as fact without proof.

– DO NOT TAKE SOCIAL MEDIA POSTS AS TRUTH. Not even when they are made by someone you trust.

– DO NOT TRUST ANY SOURCE UNLESS IT IS CORRABORATED BY MULTIPLE OTHER CREDIBLE SOURCES.

There are already bots posting propaganda, actively targeting leftists, encouraging us not to vote in various ways.

Do not let them win.

This political system is heinously broken, but consider what evil still has to gain from silencing you before you allow yourself to be silenced.

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shieldmaiden19:

robogal328:

haletheheretic:

haletheheretic:

soloveitchik:

haletheheretic:

soloveitchik:

It’s my opinion that like if a white supremacist/Nazi is going to be reformed. They need to do so willingly. The only times I’ve heard of successful rehabilitation of fascists is when they made the conscious decision to no longer be one anymore and seek atonement. People who try to like hug and change fascists that don’t want to change are fucking morons

Correct. I was crypto-facist for a few years, and the people trying to hug me didnt change me because at that point I wouldnt have listened. It was only when I started to see the movement for what it was that I was finally able to listen.

I’m not derailing your addition but I’m horrified you’re only 18. When did you become a fasc?

Yeah trust me it *is* horrifying. I’m ashamed of who I was and I think my only atonement is to talk about how damn easy it is to become one when you’re young.

This is gonna be a long post.

For a little bit of background, I am a mixed race person, half brown and half white. I was raised in a Muslim family and am still closeted around them.

I started to have issues with Islam at around 12 or so, when I first started to get the idea that I might be gay. Now I never would have admitted that was my reason. If you had asked me I probably would have said “logic” or something. Because of that I went hard into atheism and atheist circles.

Now people hate to admit this but ex-Muslim spaces are predominantly right wing. Ex-Muslims often see the left as “too tolerant” towards a religion that hurt them. This was the only community I had though, and I read through everything. I was 13.

The other thing that people hate to admit is that, especially when you’re young, being mixed race is so damn hard. If I acted “too white”, following my mother’s German/Austrian traditions, I was accused of hiding my true nature. But if I acted “too brown” I was just another camel jockey. So I hid my “Indian” customs from others and tried passing as white. Especially online.

So I’m not saying this is all youtube’s fault or anything. I was raised to believe that the brown half of my family was lesser and stupid. And with my hatred of Islam, I believed it doubly.

Then came Anita Sarkeesian. I was watching pewdiepie and from there my recommendations were all set. If I’m remembering the pipeline it was pewdiepie – Philip Defranco – Chris Ray Gun (sp?) – Thunderfoot – Sargon – etc. But I was pretty much acquainted with all of the right wing youtube of the day.

Funnily enough, I found her through Thunderfoot. That got me into antifeminism, and more specifically, GamerGate.

I was primarily on the subreddits KIA (Kotaku In Action) and TIA (Tumblr In Action). Both made fun of the SJWs. I kid you not, I would gleefully wait for “Sanity Sunday”, where the people would talk about how feminism is disgusting, cultural appropriation is fake, the wage gap isnt real, etc. I would scroll through this tag for hours.

I got most of my youtube recommendations from those subreddits. This led me from GamerGate to more fascist lines of thinking, such as watching videos about why BLM is a terrorist organization, why all muslims were evil rapists, and why I was fundamentally right to reject my Indian heritage and follow my “correct” heritage.

From here I delved into “race realism”, and I believed it all. I had to. This was the only community I had felt safe in. One of the fash guys even offered to shack me up at his house if my parents kicked me out for being atheist. I was 15.

To say that again, I was 15 and believed that white was right, blue lives matter, “we wuz kangs”, etc. I never would have called myself a fascist or a Nazi. How could I? I used my brown skin as a token, so that people could point to me and say: “See, we aren’t misogynistic and racist! We have this brown girl right here.” But I believed in all the things the Nazis did. I’m not going to pretend I didn’t. I will never pretend I didn’t.

But then something happened. I admitted to myself, and to a few others, that I was gay. And suddenly, the homophobia that I had molded myself in, it didn’t fit right. I happened to, by accident, click on the reddit thread of GamerGhazi, the opposition to GamerGate. And after a long bout of introspection I found out that they were accepting of gay people, that the things I had been experiencing were common, that maybe, just maybe, we didn’t need a white ethnostate.

I don’t want to be dramatic but that accidental click saved my life.

From there it was a road of recovery. I deleted all my old accounts, made new ones, and started to read leftist theory. I found better friends, cut out old people. So now, just about two years later, I’m healing.

I think that’s everything. I probably got some times and dates wrong because I’ve been trying to move on from it. But if you need more info or anything like that, please let me know.

Life After Hate

Reblogging for anyone who’s struggling with being an ex-fascist. Feel free to message me as well, I know how scary it can be.

Reblogging because, if this shows up often enough, maybe it will be someone else’s accidental click

^^This person was brave enough to share their struggle and their road. Honor that by reblogging.

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colorogasm:

Always Remember:

  1. kissing can and will, get boring.
  2. its ok to go to sleep on opposite sides.
  3. forgetting favorites, dates and replies is only human.
  4. you dont have to like, or be friends with all of their friends and vice-versa.
  5. they have a right to spend weekends dedicating to their friends and family. you have the same right.
  6. privacy is still in play.
  7. trying simple things that they like, no matter how much you are sure you will dislike it, is a very small step you can take to show your love to them.
  8. you dont gotta have the same taste in music, food, books etc.
  9. saying i love you, thank you, take care, please and i missed you really helps.
  10. you cant agree with all their life decisions and they cant with yours. keeping an open mind and having an honest and deep discussion about it helps. 
  11. they dont need your permission to do things and neither you need theirs.
  12. the intention and care behind the gift matters. not its price tag. 
  13. dont try and change them. help them become better versions of themselves and get the same help and support and care from them. 
  14. know what matters most and focus on that.

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gallusrostromegalus:

thebaconsandwichofregret:

thebaconsandwichofregret:

pervocracy:

shlevy:

pervocracy:

Moving tip: the first thing you should bring into the new house is a roll of toilet paper.  The second thing is drinking glasses or water bottles.  The third thing is curtains or blinds.  Then everything else.

Nope, router first. Otherwise agreed.

Router last.  Otherwise this happens:

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I’m on my 11th house in 23 years and here’s what should be in your “first” box:

Toilet roll,

Kettle,

Tea/coffee,

Mugs (enough for the number of people helping you to move),

A bottle opener (wine or beer at your discretion)

Disposable plates and cutlery (because the last thing you want to do once you’ve unpacked is wash up)

This was the system perfected by my parents who’ve lived in about 40 houses between them.

ADDITION:

When you get to your new place send someone out for milk for the teas and coffees also maybe biscuits.

Order takeaway your first night. I’m told in America the traditional moving dinner is pizza. We’ve always had a Chinese.

First Box: keep this box handy, pack it while you’re packing and put it in the truck LAST, or up in the front with you so you can get to it right away:

  • TP and toilet plunger. Hopefully you won’t need the plunger on the first night but it’d be AWFUL to have to look for it in case of emergency.
  • kette/coffee maker and necessary hot beverage supplies.  Including Mugs.  Caffeination is Key.
  • Your fave pan and spatula.  You have one.  You won’t use it the first night but I promise that you will NOT be done unpacking the kitchen stuff before you’re sick of takeout.
  • Duct Tape
  • Batteries
  • Cleaning supplies- paper towels, all-purpose cleaner, duster- houses get gross when left alone
  • Router, becuase we’re millenials and we’re going to be googling how to fix/turn on and assemble everything.
  • Enough bedding to cover your mattress while you sleep on it for the first few nights.
  • cell phone/laptop chargers
  • change of clothes, maybe two
  • If you have some kind of water filter that also fits in this box, bring that.  

PURCHASE, FIRST NIGHT:

  • When you’re getting takeout, get the disposable plates/flatware/cups.  Also get takeout sooner rather than later so you don’t collapse of hypoglycemia in the middle of unloading boxes like me, a moron.
  • I personally reccomend chinese.  
  • If you’ve moved to an area where it’s not safe to drink the tap water unflitered and you’re a dummy like me that forgot to put your filter in the First Box, get enough bottled water to stay hydrated until you can get your filter set up.
  • milk, eggs, your preferred cooking fat, other meal/pantry staples.
  • Something fun like cookies or booze. You’ve had a tough day.
  • If you forgot the TP/batteries/duct tape/cleaning supplies, get those. 

To Do Upon Arrival, even before unpacking:

  • Get there about an hour before the moving truck and do the following:
  • Re-check all the lights/taps/toilet/appliances/AC/Heater.  Things might have happened and you’ll want to call the repair guy ASAP if something needs fixing.
  • Introduce yourself to your neighbors if they’re home.  This will help prevent things like parking issues or noise complaints, there’s a good chance they’ll actually help, and if you’re REALLY lucky they’ll cook and you don’t have to get takeout.
  • Also if you do need to call a repair guy they probably know someone.
  • clean up any obvious messes before they get blocked by boxes.
  • Hydrate and have a snack before lifting.

DO NOT ATTEMPT ON DAY 1

  • Keep all pets and probably young children contained/boarded/at a friend or relative’s house until all the boxes and furniture is inside to prevent escape.  
  • Hell, you’re probably exhausted. Leave them with grandma overnight.
  • Do Not Attempt to assemble disassembled furniture on day one.  you will do it wrong and possibly slice your hand open with the allen wrench somehow and have to go to the urgent care
  • try not to go to the urgent care in general.
  • Don’t bother answering any email, texts, voicemails or nonemergency forms of communication.  you’re busy.  Possibly you are busy eating chinese and crying, but you are busy.
  • Exercise. you already did a ton of heavy lifting and cardio.  don’t go jogging and pass out in an unfamiliar neighborhood.

Reccomended:

  • If you own the place or feel confident enough in your spackle and paint abilities to get your damage deposit back, put a nail in a wall and hang something up.  It’s your space now.
  • If you don’t, hang something up with blue tac anyway.  Still your space.