treat them with respect but be wary of any offers of food
what, you thought it was a coincidence ace culture is based on cake and puns? how foolish.
you know who else likes wordplay and tempting foods?
Well, I guess you baker beware of all these cookies I made today. Looks like they’re going to go to waist whether you eat them or not. At yeast I’ll have them all to myself now…
PUNS AND TEMPTING FOOD, I TOLD YOU
#fun fact when you can only see the top of the pink letters it looks like it says enbies
Okay this is amazing and all, but this also went from “a-spec people” to just “ace culture” really quick
good point! I’m aro, but while I associated ace culture w/ things like cake, dragons, puns etc, I don’t have many associations for aro culture! we just don’t talk about it enough. let’s fix that!
Green gemstones like malachite, emerald, serpentine
Discount chocolate after Valentine’s day
Arrows
Also dragons
Frog!!!
Other aro-specs add on.
MISTAKING AN ANXIETY ATTACK FOR ROMANTIC FEELINGS?!?
where’s the thing that says “I did not agree to this picture of me pls delete it”
I was seriously thinking just the other day about how many of my relationships were “I have to convince myself I’m in love with you because I’m terrified of making anyone angry or sad and so I’m utterly screwed here” and how I should write something about this
I literally. Told someone I was in love with him once. Because he had just said he was in love with me, and I’d said apologetically that I didn’t feel the same, and he was SAD.
So, being aro and not knowing it and having absolutely zero idea what being in love meant or felt like, I searched within myself to see if perhaps I could find some seed of liking him more than as a friend, that might be nurtured into love. And I convinced myself that I loved him enough to say that actually I DID love him. And WE DATED FOR NINE MONTHS AND EVEN MOVED IN TOGETHER. WHY GOD WHY
Society either criminalizes & dehumanizes disabled people, or accuses them of cheating the system. We are either second class citizens, or liars and thieves.
The accusations vary based on what is most likely to allow privileged parties to shirk the social responsibility of allowing disabled people to live and participate in society as equals human beings. The easiest way to turn the public against its minority citizens is to insist they are undeserving.
We are inconvenient. In their eyes this is an inexcusable crime.
you’re going from one extreme environment to the polar opposite, and that is gonna throw you at first.
high school:
every minute of the day scheduled
immediate penalties for missing class
need permission to go to the bathroom WTF
your movements/behavior strictly enforced with punishment systems
you’re forced to interact with teachers and classmates
small assignments over short periods
basically bullied by the administration into obeying arbitrary rules
college:
you can show up late. it’s a jerkwad thing to make a habit of, but you can do it
YOU CAN FUCKING SKIP CLASSES WTF. most professors don’t take attendance. I missed soooooo many classes. use good judgement or your grades will suffer
DONT NEED PERMISSION TO GO TO THE BATHROOM. or leave class early. you can just, literally walk out? on bad mental health days I found it helpful to like, leave in the middle of class and spend 10-15 min resting. and then walking back in. (but be careful not to disrupt the class. I mostly did it when there was a back exit.
No Body Cares About Almost Anything. Dress code what’s that? u wanna wear a bikini to class, you can. a unicorn onesie? go ahead. randomly burst into parkour while walking to class? it’s whatever. you can literally (in the short term) get away with so much shit, and so many bad choices. no more demerits or detention or suspension
very little accountability/punishment, but the few rules they do enforce come at a huge cost if u get caught (these things are also arbitrary)
big part of your grade can be large end-of-term essays/assignments. you get to put it off andoff and no one holds you accountable…. until the grades come in. (I’ve failed more than one class this way)
you have to consistently self monitor or you’ll end up putting work off until way to late
No one’s stopping you from making bad choices. or even telling you not to. usually the opposite really. pay attention to your choices.
high school forces you (unsustainably) into study routines but without teaching you how to do it without external pressure. That framework collapses super quickly. you’re going from one ridiculous extreme to another, you’re gonna end up overindulging & being irresponsible bc
you couldn’t until now
your brain is trained to weigh consequences/rewards in the short term
you’re exhausted from high school
it feels like everyone else is doing it
my GPA bombed in college, I was not prepared. my advice comes from only my experiences, but check the notes, I’m sure my followers have loads to offer. off the top of my head:
look for stablizing influences
no seriously choose your friends wisely, their bad habits will become yours. college students tend to function in herds.
join study groups. for most classes. do it.
FREE TUTORING THERE’S FREE TUTORING TAKE ADVANTAGE
make friends with the TAs, go to them for homework help. you can like, ask them about a specific question and they’ll walk you through it.
as s freshman, maybe don’t sign up for classes with large term projects.
always check ratemyprofessor.com before enrolling in a class. it won’t always tell you much but it can give you huge red flags.
you can change your class schedule super easily for maybe 2 weeks. use that.
you can actually basically avoid talking to the professor the entire semester. DONT do this. be careful about self isolating
ASK FOR HELP ASK FOR HELP ASK FOR HELP. professors can actually be really accommodating if you explain you’re struggling with adjusting, mental health, deadlines.
MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES. USE THE STUDENT HEALTH SERVICES.
just make a (free!) appt w/ any therapist. it’s amazing and you don’t need parent permission. do it at the start of of the semester, before you start struggling. this is s fantastic prevention tool
last thing: if you’re a white dude be careful not to talk too much in class it’s a Thing)
related note: don’t take philosophy
tell your mom I’m having a good day and I said hi!
How many different types of sarcasm are there? List their names and descriptions.
Selective sarcasm: when you are sarcastic for the viewing pleasure of a few, while others think you’re serious. Usually for humorous effect.
Cold sarcasm: angry, sharp, biting sarcasm that cuts the conversation in half like a knife and leaves it trailing into silence.
Hot sarcasm: innuendo. Sarcastically. It’s very sexy.
Melodramatic sarcasm: over the top! Extravagant! Ridiculous! Be! A! Drama! Queen! Get! The! Applause! You! Deserve!
Whispered sarcasm: for your personal satisfaction only. Usually hissed under your breath. Usually followed by the classic exchange of, “What was that?” “Oh, nothing.”
just so younger people are aware: a few years ago it was sorta impossible to google how words were pronounced. and it sucked. it was super terrible. the next time an aging asshat tries to shame you for being young, just know I have been pronouncing my vowels wrong my entire life and am still extremely bitter over this. I would strangle countless condescending boomers for the chance to drag even this tiny bit of technological progress back to my primary school days.
the good old days were never good. next time an adult tells you that, look em dead in the eye n tell them they’re either an idiot or a sellout
What words have you been mispronouncing
deign
caveat
perogies
macabre
necronomicon
epitaph
motif
analogous
comparable
colonel
egregious
hyperbole
ignominious
superfluous
malleable
insatiable
chaos (i pronounced it ‘cha-chose’ in my head I have no idea why)
Having sensory issues is weird. Like someone rings the doorbell once and there go my evening plans
Yesterday I touched a box that felt “wrong” and I spent the rest of night trying to get that feeling off my hands.
i scraped my teeth together while eating so I didn’t finish my meal
Oh my god this is a thing??? I’ve been doing this shit all my life. I’d touch something wrong and try to touch correctly for hours afterword
The trying to get a feeling off of your hands thing happens to me ALL THE TIME
I don’t have a wrong texture, but i do have a few wrong sounds, for example when a fork scratches against a plate (nothing happens with other, similar sounds), my entire body will squirm and tense up completely involountarily when i hear that, it sucks
Sometimes I’ll be trying to sleep and I won’t because the sheets feel fucking wrong, the radio sounds fucking wrong and everything is wrong so I have to go take a shower just so everything can feel right again.
Sensory issues are weird, man.
and then it’s 2am and the bedsheets are wet. somedays you just don’t win
anyone else have to ‘balance’ how you walk,, like walking on paving and sidewalks and stuff, if you do you’ll know what i mean, like one foot feels heavier or something because you’ve stepped on too much of one type of sidewalk too much compared to the other one?
i have exactly this! i always assumed it was fairly common among people with sensory issues. anyone know if there’s a term for it?
teenagers being taught to glorify being ‘adult’ as if it’s all glamorous stuff like ‘sex’ and ‘credit card debt’, but honestly most of your time will be spent self-checking your jiggly bits for suspicious lumps and filling out paperwork
you forgot the part where you wake up one day deriving legitimate personal satisfaction from purchasing a table
